Wednesday, February 17, 2010

The Connected Child Conference

Caroline's Promise is proud to co-sponsor a two-day conference featuring Dr. Karyn Purvis, author of The Connected Child. Dr. Purvis, along with several other speakers will be at Calvary Baptist Church in Advance, North Carolina on Friday, March 12 and Saturday, March 13. The conference is open to anyone interested in learning more about adoption and the adjustment of children into their forever families. The Friday sessions are geared more towards professionals in adoption and social work related fields. The Saturday sessions will be very useful for families and anyone desiring more information about adoption. For more information and to register, go to http://www.theconnectedchild.com/

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

A Love Story, Part Three

We are so excited to share with you our third and final part to "A Love Story"; the journey of Sonia joining her forever family: the Bowers. Parts One and Two were written by mom, Emily. Today we have the honor of hearing from dad Michael. We trust you will be touched by his story:

"I would be lying if I said that I have never had any doubts, questions or struggles with the idea of adoption. Questions and doubts such as:
  • How can we afford international adoption?
  • How will this affect our home and our children?
  • What will others think?
  • How can we afford international adoption? (I know I mentioned this already but this was just the truth.)
  • What country?
    If we can only adopt one child, will it make a difference? (Yes, I asked this question.)
  • How will others accept or reject our adopted child?
  • 100 more questions, at least.
But since Sonia's arrival into our family, the questions and doubts seem further and further in the past. She has been a champ adapting to our crazy family. Her sister and brothers have all been fantastic. Our family is richer and more complete with Sonia as a "Bowers". She has a great sense of humor and her laugh is infectious.

But last night...last night she melted her daddy's heart. Sonia went to bed about 8pm and the rest of the kids were up and we continued to hear her coughing. Emily asked me to go in and pick her up while she gave her a dose of cough medicine. I picked Sonia up and she woke up enough to take her medicine and I decided to rock her for a few minutes. After, I carefully stood up from the rocking chair and placed Sonia in the crib. Then it happened. At the moment I leaned over to cover Sonia up, she picked up her little head, smiled a huge smile, opened her eyes and looked at me and whispered, "Papa."

The word came out slow and sweet. Papa.

In that moment it was apparent once again, adoption does make a difference. Adoption is Biblical. Adoption is worth it, especially to Sonia. Adoption is expensive, but not as much as a new car in the drive-way or a larger home with a bigger payment.

Adoption has changed our home and I don't want the old home back.

Adoption does cause others to question, ask and wonder. But I am thinking that has more to do with those questioning and wondering, but little to do with me.

Adoption is challenging, trying and difficult, but God did not give us a Spirit of fear and timidness.

Adoption is hard to resist when she whispers, "Papa."

God continues to melt and shape my heart through my entire family and I am loving the feeling."

Sonia and Papa:


This love story the Bowers' family has graciously allowed us to publish is one of many families who have stepped out in faith and obeyed God's call to adopt. God may not be calling you to adopt but He does call each of us to help and to care for the orphan. You may have questions and concerns like the Bowers' did. There may be great obstacles in front of you that you think are impossible to get around. May this three-part Love Story encourage you to trust the One who has burdened your heart: He is faithful to fulfill His purpose for you.

If you are ready to take the next step - whatever that might be - in answering God's call to care for orphans, please contact us. We'd love to talk to you and answer any questions you might have. One family, one person, can make a difference. If she could, Sonia would tell you herself what difference you can make.

Sunday, February 14, 2010

A Love Story, Part Two

Today we continue our Love Story with the Bower family. Our last post highlighted the wonderful change that could be physically seen in Sonia once love had a chance to grow on her through her forever family. This post is going to look at Emily's personal journey, bringing home a child and the process of that child becoming a daughter. In Emily's own words...

"Today I felt like a mom. A really proud mom of four. I had read and talked with several friends that told me before traveling that there are two kinds of adoptive moms: the ones who fall head over heels in love upon first glance, and then there is the majority, the ones who grow to love their children over time.

Please do not get me wrong, I felt extremely protective of her from the moment I saw her picture. I knew in my heart she was the one for our family. I knew she was a "Bowers", I could see it in the way she furrowed her little brow just like her dad! I knew she was the perfect fit for our family when the kind Sister at the Home of Hope brought her out to meet us for the first time. However, we were strangers to her and she was a stranger to us. Even up to last week, when I rocked her at night, she would not make eye contact. She wasn't stiff or resistant, she just averted her eyes when we were close.

Last night, we read Goodnight Moon, as we do every night, then Hop on Pop, which she loves. Then we began to rock, Sonia leaning in to snuggle close. My hair fell onto her face as we were adjusting the bigger-than-life baby doll she was toting around and she carefully pulled my hair back. She bgean to play with my hair, babbling and talking to me, and looking into my eyes the whole time. I don't know when it happened: I guess love has just been growing and growing over the last five weeks. I just embraced her, so overwhelmed with the love in my heart for her.

A mom to four. All of the mine. I would do anything for them. God is amazing the way He can knit hearts together in such a fashion that you can no longer tell when one ends and the other begins."

"Love has just been growing and growing..." and thanks to your generosity, this sweet little girl will grow up in love. Thank you for partnering with Caroline's Promise. Together, we are reclaiming hope for orphans, just like Sonia once was.

Friday, February 12, 2010

A Love Story, Part One

A few months ago, we introduced you to the Bowers family who were adopting from Rwanda. Because of your generosity, Caroline's Promise was able to give them a grant to help with the cost. We wanted to give you an update on their journey, now that sweet Sonia is home. And we just had to show you pictures of this precious, precious little girl! "Adorable" doesn't even come close to describing her.

Here are the Bowers:

The Bowers family has generously allowed us to share with you their love story, uniting Sonia to her forever family and we want you to savor these snapshots of their journey. This is Part One, told by mom Emily:

"Here we are, all home, all together. There must not be a better feeling in all the world. It has been an amazing journey and the best part is, it is really just beginning. The adjustment and transition has been as smooth as we could have asked for. Though it was hard to be gone for so long, it was a great way for us to all be together, uninterrupted for two full weeks. There has been so much laughter since we have been home; it is as if Sonia knows this is all hers. All the comfort, all the security, all the sense of belonging to a family: it is all hers. To see her wake up with a smile and a giggle instead of a stoic, frightened stare is an amazing thing. The longing, the ache, that has been ever-present in my heart for the last two years is at rest. We are a family - all six of us - we are together and that is enough.
A conversation I had with my youngest is a great example of what has happened in all of our hearts. A few weeks ago Jonathan, our eight-year-old, came up to me and said, "How come Sonia is so much cuter now than before?"

"What do you mean?" I asked.

"She just looked so sad and kind of mad in her picture," he replied.

I looked across the room, and there she was, dancing to her own happy little song she was singing to herself. I said quietly to him, "Love makes you beautiful."

"Seriously?" he said, "Can it really?"

"Absolutely. Love changes everything.""
And so it does. See for yourself with pictures of Sonia before she met the Bowers, and after she became a part of their family.



Check back in for Part Two of the Bowers' love story! You won't want to miss it!

Friday, February 5, 2010

Don't Forget!

Hello friends! Please don't forget that we have moved! Moved blogs, that is. We're now on our website page at www.carolinespromise.net Head on over to our website and click on the "Blog" tab to read all our new updates! Don't forget to add us to your favorites and delete this old address. Thanks for updating us!